Great Expectations

I've come to the conclusion that women have an unrealistic expectation of men. The expectation varies with each woman and often depends on where that woman is positioned in her life.

Riding on mass transit and overhearing some of the conversations that women have about, and with their men has given me great insight on this. Now while I could go on for days about some of the conversations that I have heard, let me boil it down straight to the point.

Nowadays women are less accepting of men than they have ever been in a long time. Couple of months back one of my college buddies proved this theory. He met a nice young woman (or so he thought at the time), at a venue and the two hit it off perfectly.

She was, in his words, the perfect package. She was attractive, and she pretty much was financially set. Here's where the problem came in. She became too demanding. She wanted to spend most of her time with him and she demanded that some definition be put on their relationship in an abrupt manner. Within about a week or so she wanted to be his girlfriend. If it would have gone on for a month I could see her wanting to be married. Seriously.

In another story, I saw a young woman who was angry with her boyfriend because he didn't buy her exactly what she wanted. She berated him and called him everything but a child of God. If he didn't get her that gift, he was dead to her.

When women put these kinds of demands and pressures on a man, these unrealistic expectations; they are setting themselves up for disaster. Using aggressive techniques to get what you want from a guy never really works, it just builds up animosity.

Consider a man who is working hard for his family, and when he gets home he is belittled because he doesn't fulfill his mate's expectation. Already several things are going on. First and foremost the man feels devalued in a sense. He feels like nothing he's ever done is going to be good enough. The female feels upset because her needs aren't being met. Her alternative is to push. But by doing that pushing she's creating a greater chasm.

Sometimes women need to step back and put themselves in men's shoes. They need to really need to be patient and communicate in a sensitive manner with men.